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CRTL + ALT + DEL…. the 3 buttons of life!

 

Life is like a multiple choice question. Sometimes the choices confuse you, not the question itself. The people who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile are those who have fought the toughest battles. There are times that we feel all is over. We feel so depressed. We get disappointed. There are many of such times as life is full of ups and downs. The worst part is when people you trust let you down. They could be your parents, relatives, church members or friends.

Another painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, forgetting that you are special too. That happens to all of us. Now, let me move on to some of the principles that can help us live this life.

CRTL – Control yourself

Self control is paramount in life. A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls. – Proverbs 25:28. In the ancient times, all the cities were guarded with great walls. If the walls are broken, it means the enemy can enter at any time and destroy the inhabitants. Control over one’s self therefore becomes very vital. If you want to be a great or successful person, you learn to control yourself.

There are some times that you would be provoked. There are some times that you would be tempted to do something unwholesome but your ability to put everything on hold helps.  The control centre of your life is your attitude. Speak when you are angry and you will make best speech you will ever regret. -Ambrose Bierce

 

ALT – Look for an alternate solution

We hit the wall sometimes. The problems come in bounds. As soon as one is solved, the other resurfaces. This makes life very difficult. We get through certain situations and we think that is the end of the road. I believe strongly that when we use the ALT in life, we would find a solution. The solution may be hidden within the problem. Dig deep and you will surely find it. There is no need to kill yourself.

Most people contemplate death when the going gets tough. Instead of conceiving ideas of negativity, try an alternate solution that is positive. If A didn’t work, why don’t you try B? There are 26 letters in the alphabet. When A is used, you have 25 more that you can attend to. It wouldn’t hurt to have Plans A to Z. Would it?

 

DEL – Delete the situation that hurts you

This is the most difficult part of life….deleting certain people who once meant a lot to you….letting go of certain situations that once gave you so much joy. It could be an old habit. It could be an illegal business but the earlier you deleted that from your life the better. Instead of worrying about a situation or certain people, why don’t you delete them from your life? Some friends are like poison. They destroy us when they are in our lives.

Stop worrying so much. Worrying is using your imagination to create things you don’t want. Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it. Instead of going through pains the second time, we must endeavor to delete situations, people and businesses that hurt us.

You can let your smile change people but don’t let people change your smile. You are born for greatness. Let me know what you also think about CRT + ALT +DEL.

The Triple Filter Test

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in
high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher
and said, “Do you know what I just heard about your friend?”

“Hold on a minute,” Socrates replied. “Before telling me
anything, I’d like you to pass a little test. It’s called the
Triple Filter Test.”

“Triple filter?”

“That’s right,” Socrates continued. “Before you talk to me about
my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what
you’re going to say. That’s why I call it the triple filter test.
The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what
you are about to tell me is true?”

“No,” the man said, “Actually I just heard about it and…”

“All right,” said Socrates. “So you don’t really know if it’s
true or not. Now let’s try the second filter, the filter of
goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend
something good?”

“No, on the contrary…”

“So,” Socrates continued, “You want to tell me something bad
about him, but you’re not certain it’s true. You may still pass
the test though, because there’s one filter left: the filter of
usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to
be useful to me?”

“No, not really.”

“Well,” concluded Socrates, “If what you want to tell me is
neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?”

Ponder over this! I believe strongly that what comes out of our mouths speak volumes. We should endeavor to be positive all the time.

Spreading rumors or saying bad things about a person doesn’t do you any good.

If you are looking down on a person, it should be that you are picking them up. That’s the only way up. If you want to be up, help lift another.

Do you know the difference?

A young black boy saw a balloon seller on a street corner. His eyes sparkled as he gazed at all the different colored balloons – red, blue, white, black, yellow… 

The old man selling the balloons saw the boy hesitate but the boy later gathered courage and approached him. 

“Tell me mister,” said the boy, “Do the black balloons fly as high as the others?”  The old man felt a tear forming in his eye. He picked the boy up, sat him on his knee and said, “Look.”  He let go of all the balloons. They drifted up in a cluster, higher and higher into the blue sky, until they were so high they disappeared.  “Did you see that?” the balloon seller asked.  “Yes,” said the boy.  “Did the black balloons fly as high as the others?”  “Yes, Mister, they did.”  “You see my boy, the balloons are like people.

The important thing isn’t their color, or what they look like on the outside. No, the important thing is WHAT’S INSIDE.  And what’s inside you makes all the difference in life.

That’s what I just want you to know. There is something in you that makes you different. It isn’t about the looks. It is about what’s within. Your zeal, enthusiam makes you who you are.

How you approach a situation defines you a great deal. Let’s resolve to make a difference because that’s how the we are built. We are stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

Have a lovely month!

What are you seriously waiting for?

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, and then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we believe that we’ll be more content when they are.

After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.  We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we’re able to go on a nice vacation, or when we retire.

The truth is there’s no better time to be happy than…

RIGHT NOW!!!

If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Happiness is the way.

So, treasure every moment that you have, and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, (special enough to spend your time with), and remember that time waits for no one.

So, stop waiting…

** until your car or home is paid off.

** until you get a new car or home.

** until your kids leave the house.

** until you go back to school.

** until you finish school.

** until you lose 10 lbs.

** until you gain 10 lbs.

** until you get married.

** until you get a divorce.

** until you have kids.

** until you retire.

** until summer.

** until spring.

** until winter.

** until fall.

** until you die.

There is no better time than RIGHT NOW to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

So,

Work like you don’t need money.

Love like you’ve never been hurt,

And dance like no one’s watching.

Money can buy pleasure… but not love;

Money can buy a show… but not joy;

Money can buy a slave… but not a friend;

Money can buy a woman… but not a wife;

Money can buy a house… but not a home;

Money can buy food… but not an appetite;

Money can buy medicines… but not health;

Money can buy diplomas… but not culture;

Money can buy books… but not intelligence;

Money can buy tranquillizers. but not peace;

Money can buy indulgences… but not forgiveness;

Money can buy the earth… but not the sky.

“It is not necessary to regret what you cannot repair”. -Samuel Johnson

Wahala dey ooo!!!!

Bill Gates organized an enormous session to recruit a new chairman for Microsoft Eastern Europe. Five thousand candidates assembled in a large room. Ayodele, a Nigerian guy, was one of the candidates.

Bill Gates thanked all the candidates for coming and asked those who do not know Java program to leave. Two thousands candidates left the room. Ayodele says to himself “I do not know Java but I have nothing to lose if I stay. I’ll give it a try.

Bill Gates asked the candidates who never had experience of managing more than 100 people to leave. Two thousand left the room. Ayo says to himself “I never managed anybody but myself but I have nothing to lose if I stay. What can happen to me? So he stays, then Bill Gates asked the candidates who do not have management diploma to leave. Five hundred people left the room. Ayodele says to himself, “I left school at 15 but what have I to lose? So he stays in the room.

Lastly, Bill asked the candidates who do not speak Serb-Croatian to leave. 498 candidates left the room. Ayodele says to himself, “I do not speak Serb-Croatian but what do I have to lose? So he stays and finds himself with one other candidate. Everyone else has gone. Bill Gates joined them and said, “Apparently you are the only two candidates who speak Serb-Croatian, so I’d like to hear you have a conversation together in that language.

Calmly, Ayodele turns to the other candidate and says “Wahala dey o!”

The other candidate answers “Oh, Oga na wah oooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!”

Bill Gates “You are both hired”

Moral of the story: NEVER GIVE UP! Don’t be intimidated in life!

Ideas are Useless. Execution is Everything!

Stop Comparing Yourself with Steve Jobs

Comparing yourself with Steve Jobs is not healthy. Never mind that it’s probably the pastime of every alpha male and female businessperson on the planet these days.

Drawing inspiration from Steve Jobs — or from anyone else you admire — studying them, and learning from them, now those are different matters. But all too often we conflate admiration and comparison. They’re two completely different things. One is smart, the other debilitating.

Comparison sounds like this: “Why aren’t I that creative?” “How come I don’t have the negotiating cojones he does?” “How come I can’t manage my people to that level of excellence?” “Why can’t I run two companies at once like he does?” “Why didn’t I have the guts to drop out of college and do what I really wanted to do?” “How come I haven’t had a comeback?” And it’s no surprise what comes next: “What a loser I am. I’ll never be like him. I’ll never be able to do anything that big. If I were sitting across the office from him he’d make mincemeat of me. I just don’t have what he has.”

The loop is repeated every hour or every time you read something about your icon, whichever comes first.

And this is healthy how?

Such comparisons spiral you into depression. They demotivate you, demoralize you, and generally suck every last bit of enthusiasm and aliveness out of you, so that you go into your next meeting or activity unable to contribute an ounce of energy to the room. How could you? You just annihilated your spirit.

Don’t touch hot stoves, don’t forget to call your mother on Mother’s Day, and don’t compare yourself with others. Wire this into your brain. Ruthlessly comparing yourself with others has become confused with some kind of tough-love work ethic. It isn’t the same thing. And it isn’t the least bit productive. It leaves you with nothing but personal unhappiness, and you can’t create very much of anything with that.

Because we confuse destructive comparisons with a strong work ethic, we make a habit of them, and mental habits get hardwired into our brains.

Break the cycle. Do an intervention on yourself. Begin the process of permanently rewiring your brain by consciously recognizing that this thing you thought was good, or responsible, is in fact the opposite.

There’s a saying, “You can’t afford the luxury of a negative thought.” It’s true. And comparing yourself with others is the equivalent of smothering yourself in negative thought. The feelings of self-loathing that follow are ultimately self-centered and self-indulgent in the most negative possible way. Yes, it’s a form of self-pity.

And if all that isn’t enough, consider this: The last way you will ever get to play in a game remotely like the one your icons play in is by comparing yourself with them.

When I was in my 20s I moved to Los Angeles to try and get a record deal as a singer and songwriter. I compared myself with Bob Dylan and Joni Mitchell constantly. Using that approach, I never produced a remotely memorable song. And then I started observing pop/rock songwriter John Cougar. He was derided by the critics for being derivative of, but never nearly as insightful or affecting as, the greats. In a brilliant stroke of authenticity, he dropped the name I assume record producers had forced on him and began using his real name — John Mellencamp. As he embraced his own inadequacies, he began to write about things that were actually real and personal to him, instead of trying to channel Bob Seger, and suddenly he was producing critically acclaimed music. He went on to found Farm Aid and in 2008 was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame.

Using Mellencamp as my model — which meant being true to me and not someone else — I began writing much better, much more authentic material, and even had a song recorded by Edgar Winter.

I heard an interview on NPR the other day with Justin Townes Earle, a great and now successful songwriter in his own right, and son of Mellencamp’s contemporary, the great rural songwriter Steve Earle. Justin bears his dad’s last name, and his middle name was given to him in honor of the legendary songwriter Townes Van Zandt. He was asked if this was a burden, to be compared with these guys. His response was brilliant:

“I know both of ’em. They ain’t legends to me. They’re just regular guys. I’ve seen them throw up on themselves… I knew early on that anyone that decided they were going to be in competition with Steve Earle and Townsend Van Zandt as a songwriter is gonna live a fool’s life. You just gotta try and write for yourself and not worry about what other people think. I think that that’s what screws a lotta people up. You’re not Dylan…you’re who you are and you gotta learn who you are in order to write decent songs.”

And this credo has made him a success.

Steve Earle or Steve Jobs — if you’re comparing yourself with them you’re betraying yourself and your life and all of the possibility that lies within it.

By: Dan Palotta ( Founder of Palotta TeamWorks)

From Shoe Maker to Stardom: 5 things I learned from Agya Koo.

The totality of life is summarized in every given day but only a few people observe and learn from it. Every day is a mark in history for somebody, there is no single day that landmarks will not be noticed. The next time you wake up, just consider the world as a school and get all the lessons.

When I had a phone call from an old friend of mine who happens to be in the Ghana movie industry, it dawned on me to write this piece on the nuggets I have acquired from the lifestyle of one of the stars. I know very well that some people don’t like or want for a better word, hate the local movie industry in Ghana. People ascribe their dislike to a host of things ranging from cast to the story line. “Examine what is said, not him who speaks” an Arab proverb states. Getting a view of two sides is very paramount in life. Open-mindedness is the keyword here. Grasp concepts, ideas and lessons from the ugliest of things.

Kofi Adu whose sobriquet is Agya Koo is an award-winning actor and comedian from Ghana. Adu is originally from the Ashanti Region of Ghana but lived in a suburb in Accra Newtown called Asantewaa. He worked as a shoe maker. In July 2008, he was given a National Award by ex-president, John Agyekum Kufuor. There are 5 golden nuggets that I have seized from the life of this man.

LESSON 1: “Do not curse God if you still have life” says the Akan proverb. Many of us get knocked down and continue to stay there. NEVER GIVE UP is the watchword. You never know when your ship will come in. You never know when the light will show at the end of the tunnel. “When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt. Even when he was a shoe maker and lived on less than $3 a day, he never gave up. He didn’t attempt suicide as it’s seen lately with the youth of Ghana. The smallest of challenges cripples a lot of people. You can still make it while you have life.

LESSON 2: The mere fact that they have begun the journey earlier doesn’t mean they will arrive before you. Agya Koo never tasted formal education. I bet he had friends who were in school everyday. Education is very important but that doesn’t make you a super-human than the others. Respect everyone you see. He didn’t lose hope and fought on in life. Celebrate with them when they take the earlier step but don’t be discouraged. However messy the situation is, just don’t be discouraged but when you arrive before them, don’t feel you are super-human because time and chance happen to us all.

LESSON 3: In the early stage of a dream, don’t force people to believe in it, just believe in yourself. When Agya Koo started with “Concert Party” he encountered a lot of opposition. “Dude, you can never be like Santo so quit” was one of the discouraging remarks he heard everyday. He wasn’t in a competition with anyone. He only believed in himself and his dreams. Despise not your smaller beginnings! Keep on nurturing your dreams and one day……just one day….they will become a reality.

LESSON 4: Depending on where you are positioned, you can enjoy a lot of things in life; therefore it is necessary to sometimes change position. Agya Koo was living in Kumasi but had the talent to make people laugh. “As un-centralized as Ghana is, the only place you can really make it to the top is in Accra where the companies, firms etc are located,” Nana Ama McBrown an actress and a close friend of mine once told me. After moving from Kumasi to Accra, he got the chance to exhibit his talent on GTV’S Concert Party. That was the beginning of great things to come for the shoe maker. When your stomach is full, your mind goes on holidays because hunger is a catalyst to planning. Position yourself very well. Move with people who lift you up and not people who push you down.

LESSON 5: It is easy to get to the top but difficult to stay there. You can only stay as the best if you are focused, humble and “malleable.” Agya Koo is a brand now in Ghana. Movies must carry his name before they sell. Agya Koo Carpenter, Agya Koo banker to mention but a few are testament to this but he continues to listen to advice. Two years ago, the Asantehene, Otumfuo Osei Tutu II called him to the palace and advised him on his movies that were gradually focusing on “atopa.” There was a drastic change in his style of acting as a result of the advice from the King. Humility will take you places. Anytime you assess your conduct to be negative and a friend refuses to signal a caution, he is nothing but a traitor. When you get to the top, help others who are now wallowing in the situation you found yourself in some time ago. Agya Koo’s movie academy, charity programs and scholarship packages are all his contribution to the society. There are billions of people in the world, don’t deceive yourself that you are on top of them all.

Life is all about lessons so don’t close your eyes and minds. Learn even from the awkward of situations, places, events and you will surely pass the test. NEVER GIVE UP!

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