Christmas is over… everything is back to normal. I don’t get suffocated in traffics like the days preceding the holidays. Yeah… I hate traffic… both vehicular and human. I doubt if there is anyone out there who cherishes them but you never know because we are all different.
Before the holidays, people went shopping for clothes, shoes, bags and any other thing you can possibly think of. I got myself some African shirts. Oh yeah, I love African shirts, shoes, bags, sandals and anything made in Africa by an African since they are unique, simple and define me better. I have been a fan of African dresses ever since I was born. Why? Because my parents made me wear them all the time and I am more proud of them for that. I have come to love African dresses and I know the best from the rest when I see them.
“The finest clothing made is a person’s skin, but, of course, society demands something more than this,” said Mark Twain. I always tell people that a person’s self-esteem is sometimes directly proportional to the clothes he wears. As I was shopping before the holidays, I saw samples of the dresses of Alikoto Clothing online. They are on facebook, twitter and tumblr. Seeing an item online is different from seeing it in person so I called and booked an appointment. Nothing comes close to the service and hospitality they deliver when you call them.
I saw the clothes… different designs, different colors, different shades and different sizes. Gentlemen, you are going to be surprised by how unique these shirts are. The quality and naturalness are unrivaled.
Let me state five reasons why I love them:
- They are 100% natural be them cotton, nylon, silk or polyester.
- They are comfortable.
- They are reasonably priced.
- They look very hip.
- They can be washed with the hand or machine.
I must say that Alikoto clothing connotes uniqueness, quality and timeless beauty. I am covered for the first quarter of the New Year. I will surely go back for more as they keep on making new and cool dresses for men and women. Did I tell you that, I got compliments from a lot of ladies when I wore one to church on Christmas Day? I was the envy of most of the guys.
Alikoto Clothing can be found on facebook, twitter and tumblr. Talk about a clothing line that’s also tech-savvy and loves social media. You can also call them on (233) 269-138-021. As I celebrate the New Year, I am going to do that in style…… thanks to Alikoto Clothing. Don’t be left out, guys!
“Know, first, who you are; and then adorn yourself accordingly.” – Epictetus
They are the most beautiful women on planet earth. They are very intelligent. They help build their men. They make homes lovely and they raise their children very well. That is the definition of the Ghanaian woman. I believe that the bad ones…yeah you can’t get all of them to be angels…. should also be treated with respect even if all they do is negative. Below are some of the worst ways to break up with the Ghanaian woman who is sexy as cheese.
7 With Clichés
Let’s just be clear here. Saying: “It’s not you, it’s me” is ridiculous. You’re breaking up with her. You don’t want to be with her. There’s something (or some things) about her that you just aren’t into. Also, saying: “Let’s be friends” is plain disrespectful. If you’re ditching the situation, you owe her the respect of taking a step back. Leave her alone. If you ended it, you have no say on the friendship potential. That’s her choice and you need to suck it up, stay away and ditch the cliché mode as it is definitely one of the worst ways to break up with a woman. You can’t eat your cake and have it. Can you? So stop that trick. Hehehehe…
Yes, this is the 21st century but breaking up is pretty much stuck in the past. Don’t even think about ending it online. Dear Ama letters have always been disastrous so the modern equivalent via e-mail is completely unacceptable and flagged as one of the worst ways to break up with a woman. Phone call breakups have never been easy, so be a man: Do it in person. And if all this doesn’t tell you that text messaging is an absolute no-no, you’re probably too far gone to be helped anyway. Hi Ama, I can’t do this anymore. Dude, you can do better than that. Be brave because you were when conning her. Aba!
5 By Assumption
Sure, you’re clear on how you feel, but you’d better be sure she is too. Don’t take it for granted that a brief mention of how things aren’t going terribly well will be accepted as an end to the affair. What you say can be taken a number of different ways. You need to make sure that you limit this possibility for interpretation, so spell it out. Don’t count on anything less than a clear statement that the relationship is done. If you’re not saying it, she’s not going to hear it. That’s how hardcore some Ghanaian ladies are. Beware!
4 Through Provocation
When a little boy pesters a little girl, it usually means that he has a thing for her. If, instead of getting straight to the point, you turn pestering into provocation to locate a convenient moment to dissolve the partnership, this is going to be mighty confusing, annoying and angering for her and it’s one of the worst ways to break up with a woman. Sure, you may disagree over Kotoko and Hearts of Oak, NPP and NDC and even the best secondary school in Ghana but if you make this the relationship-defining issue, you can count on being confirmed as crazy. Bet you beat Kwaw Kesse to it. Abodam!
Though from the outset, it may seem like a good idea to break the news in a public place, it’s like a no-man’s land, and that’s just the problem. With public breakups there’s no telling what might happen. In this situation, the event is simply not contained. If she gets upset, then you’re responsible for making her cry in public. If she’s angry, you look bad as well. Public humiliation is never desirable (for you or her), so close the door to this possibility and stick to locations that offer you and your soon-to-be ex a level of privacy. Behold the Accra Mall!
2 By Cheating
It’s guaranteed that it’ll be over if she finds out you’ve cheated but you’ll also be forever known as the bastard she caught cheating. It doesn’t matter how much you want to get out or how much another woman catches your fancy, you’re bound to look bad if there’s any awkward overlap. Also, once you’ve done the deed, you’re technically available immediately but if you want to up the positive-memory potential, you’ll probably want to wait it out a bit before bouncing back into the dating scene. Some Ghanaian guys even flirt in public so their ladies will notice and that will eventually end the relationship. Yeah, the ladies know that trick now!
1 Through Avoidance
Again, clarity is the best policy. Yes, if you just quit answering phone calls, texts, e-mails, and your door, she’s bound to get the message, however, she’s also bound to get mighty upset and you should know this is the worst way to break up with a woman. Unless you’re a glutton for punishment because it will take time and energy to dodge and weave between repeated cracks at communication– take the high road and end it with dignity. She’ll most certainly still be hurt but she won’t be left with the image of you as an unfeeling, insensitive ass who won’t pick up the phone. Be a gentleman who is also sexy as cheese!
Do you have any other way you want to share? Let us hear about it!
If women were to be presidents, we wouldn’t hear of any wars…just two or three countries not talking to each other. Ok, if you were to design a most “electable” female presidential candidate, what would she look like? I have played this game with myself for a long time. She is completely impossible. She would have served in the military, stayed home and raised her children full-time. She would be married to someone with money and she would also have some business experience. There is just no way she could exist. There are too many demands on this candidate.
But all jokes aside- she would be authentic, which would need to be true for a male or female presidential candidate. She would cross the credential threshold. She would have demonstrated that she is qualified and a good communicator. Those are the areas where women have sometimes struggled.
I had mixed feelings when I woke up to hear that, Nana Konadu Agyeman Rawlings, wife of ex-president Jerry John Rawlings ( I’m not a fan of titles) will be contesting for the position of presidential candidate of the National Democratic Party (NDC) in June this year. There have been a lot of rumors. Will she? Wont she? Everything has finally come to an end as intentions have been made known. Peradventure, it took her a long time to declare because she was still weighing the pros and cons of her decision. I have listened to so many Ghanaians talk about it but the question is, “Is Ghana ready for a female president?”
We have heard of great women like Margaret Thatcher, Angela Merkel, Golda Mier and Indira Gandhi. These women served as the Prime Ministers of their respective countries. The Prime Minister is often the counterpart of the President but the Prime Ministers are heads of parliament- the president is not the head of parliament (Depends on the country). For a woman to become president she has to be elected by the nation as a whole but Thatcher and the rest were not elected by their nation. They worked their way up through their parliaments and when their party became the majority, they became Prime Ministers. Liberia has a female president. Yes, she is Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf. Brazil, Argentina, India and Switzerland all have female presidents.
We should not look at this topic on party lines. Let us take Ghana into perspective. When I was listening to opinions of people, I came across two different ideologies. “Ghana is ready since female presidents have compassion and are not corrupt” most people said. It is a general notion that women are compassionate. They are because they carry babies in their wombs for nine months. They have experienced pain and know how it feels when someone is struggling. That is very true but have you ever met a mother who hates her own child? If you have, you will know that it isn’t always true. Nonetheless, it is people’s opinion and that must be respected. Women are not corrupt because there is an iota of fear in their DNA. “It is going to be really difficult for a woman to embezzle millions of cedis” one man said on NET2 TV yesterday. Oh yes, that could be true but do you remember the Beijing Conference? Women can do better than embezzling millions. They can go a notch higher and stick to billions.
The other group also thinks, “There is no way a woman can be president. No woman can be Commander-In-Chief of the Ghana Armed Forces.” Yeah we heard you. We are hostile to women’s rights. We are fundamentalists who think women are unfit for anything outside the home; we only look at women as sex objects. Anyways, these people think that when a woman is giving a position of power, she becomes so proud, she doesn’t listen to anyone and she turns her back on the very people who placed her at the top. It could be true because I had encounters with headmistresses when I was a senior prefect at Prempeh College. Some could be mean but most of them are adorable. The way we just conclude on things is sometimes strange. If A did that, it means B will do the same. That has been a problem for Ghana for so long. Women are making strides in the world. They are doing wonders in areas that some men would score zero.
Gender is probably the most restricting force in Ghanaian life, whether the question is who must be in the kitchen or who could be in the castle. This country is way down the list of countries electing women. It polarizes gender roles more than the average democracy. How many members of parliament are women? Oh my and yet women are more than 50% of Ghana’s population. So why is the sex barrier not taken as seriously as the tribal/ethnic one? The reasons are pervasive as the air we breathe: because sexism is still confused with nature as tribalism once was; because anything that affects males is seen as more serious than anything that affects “only” the female half of the human race; because children are still raised mostly by women (to put it mildly) so men especially tend to feel they are regressing to childhood when dealing with a powerful woman and because there is still no “right” way to be a woman in public power without being considered as you-know-what.
I’m not advocating a competition for who has it toughest. The caste systems of sex and tribalism are interdependent and can only be uprooted together. Are women voters harder on female candidates? They are definitely hard. You can’t go into an election with the presumption that women will vote for a woman. My days at University of Ghana, Legon taught me so. The ladies tend to vote for the “fresh’ guys. If you are ugly (male or female), count yourself out. That’s the Legon-style. They look at how the woman is dressed, and may say, you look too perfect; it doesn’t look right.
Nana Konadu faces a herculean task if she is to beat President J.E. Atta-Mills and win the NDC candidature. Yeah, it is not going to be easy at all. Until then, let’s keep on debating. Let’s share ideas. Is Ghana ready for a female president? Your guess is as good as mine. Long live Ghana….. Long live our women!!!